I am dating a girl that dresses bad. How do I change her?

I am starting to get serious with this girl and the one thing I keep coming back to is her sense of style. She is a nice girl and attractive, however it is sometimes an embarrassment to be seen with her. She dresses very "over the top" with extremely tight jeans. She isn't overweight, but I still don't think these things look appropriate for most occasions. Also, she loves to wear things with fake fur. Her coat has this fake fur thing around the hood. Her winter boots, which I HATE, have fur on them. Spring is near and I'm afraid she will start wearing capris! I am 26 and would prefer to be with someone who dresses more adult, more professional and feminine. How do I make her show some class? I can live with her HUGE sunglasses and her gross thongs, which I think look trashy...but I can't go out with her to nice places if she is going to dress like a bum. I like her a lot and don't want to change or control her, but this really bothers me.

I am dating a girl that dresses bad. How do I change her?
You can't "make" her or "change" her.


You can hint at things you like... if she looks at fashion mags then look with her one day and point to something and say "wow that would look GREAT on you!" or "oh I like that" . Don't take it to far because it may make her mad... just once or twice would do... then the next time she is looking at one do the same thing.


Also when she does wear something you like let her know! She may try to wear more like it because she knows that you like it.


If you take her to a nice place tell her before hand that it is a place that she needs to dress more conservitive.


Otherwise don't go to those places


If you want to be with her and it is serious don't dump her because of how she dresses.


You COULD talk to her and tell her that her look isn't approriate for a nice place you want to take her. If you can't be honest about the things she wears then you need to think about what kind of relationship you are going to have. Be honest but nice.. don't say she looks like a "bum".. it will just get her mad and she won't listen.
Reply:be careful on how u talk to her about it cause it can sound rude to her if u go shopping with her just help her pick out things that are not so tight and if she likes them then she will do that for u give her compliments on how she looks when she trys on the not so tight clothes and sooner or later she will stop
Reply:try a voucher or something from a shop that you like, then she will get new clothes without u making her feel bad. tell her what looks good on her when you are shopping, if you don't like it then say the colour dosnt suit her or something
Reply:I was wondering why you were asking in which part of France you could find girls ... that's clear now. Be careful, you are now going to look more like a polygamist mormon than the rightful evangelist you claim you are ... lol
Reply:"I like her a lot and don't want to change or control her, but this really bothers me."





"I am dating a girl that dresses bad. How do I change her?"








I think you need to step back and realize that you are dating the whole package, clothes and all. It's all or nothing. How would you like it if she went around asking online how to change you because you have a terrible sense of style? You'd feel pretty badly, right? Really, if you are still in the trying to change her phase, you're not in much of a relationship after all.
Reply:they are very sensitive about these things? that is sooo hypocritical, hmm at first i thought yeah this guy seems like he's nice, then when i read the end i though wow this guys an asshole and his girlfriend deserves better than a guy that doesnt think much of her race.
Reply:Hypocrite in a sentence there you say you don't want to change and control her. But then write a whole page of everything you dislike about her. I hope she finds out what you really think of her and dumps your sorry a..
Reply:TIGG


Buy her clothes that you want her to wear and magically get rid of the other clothing you don't like it always work believe me
Reply:To me there is a time and a place for everything! I can see you have a dilemma about not wanting to hurt her feelings, but also want to say to her, "you look ridiculous!" Perhaps, you could explain that you love that she has her OWN sense of style, but that you feel there is a more appropriate way to look when you go to CERTAIN places, and maybe find something in a magazine or if you see it on T.V., point it out to her in a loving way, and say, "WOW, I think you would look BEAUTIFUL in that!" Now, you might have to put your money where your mouth is and actually take her shopping! lol, but hopefully she will be open to at least TRY something different and classy, without you having to tell her you think she looks bad. Some people just don't know or even care how they look to others, but if she cares about you at all, she should at least compromise once in awhile.
Reply:Make suggestions. When you plan a date with her ask her to wear something for you, just like that. Example: "Baby, I love the way you look on that".


Go shopping with her, we (girls) love that. Check clothes out for her and tell her to try them on. If you think something is too tight when she is trying suggest the next size up. If you think it looks bad tell her. Example: "Baby, I honestly do not like that, I would like to see you in something like....bla"





Girls like to please their man, tell her, show her, say it over and over again, like you just can't get enough of her. Use words like: You look amazing! All the guys are going to be jelous of me! Maybe we shouldn't go out you look so good I am affraid someone might still you away from me! ... You get the point.





I hope it helps
Reply:if u want to change her u ovbiously dont like her that much... really dude... if u liked her and wanted the best for her unless shes doing something wrong or bad then dont try to change her if u dont like the way she dresses then u dont like her
Reply:This is a really good question and a really tough one.





You're right, you can't talk to her about it. I've been through something similar before, but I finally figured out the way she dressed actually was a real part of her personality...and it just didn't work for me.





I wish I had an answer for this.





But being our age, I know exactly where you're coming from. I always look for conservative/classy dressers before I ask someone out. My parents would hate it if I brought someone home wearing fur or boots.
Reply:Buy her an outfit that shows the way you would like her to wear and just go over the top about how nice she looks and say i like this wayyyyyyy better than what you normally wear. she will probaly get the hint. But if that fails just tell her look i dont want you to get mad at me but im really getting serious abou tyou but the way you dress bothers me
Reply:lol


there's this guy, who would always tell me to put my shirt down or some times he would pull it down himself


i have a flat tummy, so i love wearing short tops.(but i don't over do it, just an inch or a two)


but the point is that i think its cute when he does that cause it shows that he has respect for me.


i don't know how to help you with fur but if you think she is showing to much skin, tell her to put a jacket on or some thing because it would show that you don't like any other guy seeing her like that.
Reply:Okay, your attitude has changed, but she hasn't. It is not fair to ask her to change. What if she asked you to change? At any rate, tell her how you feel and let her decide. If she walks, she walks. After all, you are embarrassed to be seen with her anyway.
Reply:How about you buy clothes for her? Or you suggest what she should wear when you go somewhere special. Say, "honey, I like when you wear this, you look really good in it." That way she will take it as a compliment and probably take your advice. On other days, let her wear what she wants to wear and smile about it. This is how she feels comfortable. You gotta deal with it. I must admit at this age fur boots are a bit much, but some people think certain fashion knows no age. If this doesn't work, consider a new woman.





For the record, she isn't sensitive because she is Hispanic, that has nothing to do with it. All women are sensitive about their clothes if they consider themselves a fashion diva.



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